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VALLEY CONGREGATIONAL CHURCH

One of the Highest Forms of Love

2/15/2013

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When Janice and I were engaged, preparing to become husband and wife, we were encouraged to read “Tough and Tender” by Joyce Landorf.  In her book, men are exhorted to become strong leaders and yet to have a gentle spirit; courageous decision makers and lovingly tender.  

One of the manifestations of this balance between strength and gentleness is common courtesy; manners, which is missing in many marriages, many homes and many churches.  

Landorf writes, “Manners are the highest form of Christ-like love”. 

In the context of a marriage, common courtesy is part of what Paul meant when he said a husband should love his wife as Christ loved the church.  It is part of Peter means when wives are encouraged to be cooperative and respectful.  Manners are demonstrations of honor and love within the home.  They are often small, but authentic acts of kindness extended toward others because we desire to honor them; and honoring one another is what we are called to do as Christians.

Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.   (Romans 12:10)

Ephesians 4:32 commands us to be kind to one another.  This is theme that runs all through the New Testament.  Kindness is a reflection on the character of God, who is revealed in Scripture as both loving and kind.  In Jesus we see strength of conviction, strong leadership and courageous decision-making.  But we also see a kind and gentle spirit.  Kindness and gentleness are both fruits of the Spirit; they are manifestations of God’s grace in our lives.

 “Please” and “thank you”, “excuse me”, “I’m sorry”, “forgive me” and “may I help you” are all expressions of kindness and love.  They are the mark of God’s people.  May our homes be marked by such love; may Valley be a place where the value of common courtesy is held high and may we be a people of kindness and gentleness.

 
1 Comment
sandra shaw
2/19/2013 02:18:50 pm

It is good to be reminded and taught the basics of courtesy in relationships, whatever they be. Courtesy for another really is the simplistic form of honoring God and neighbor...an interesting perspective. Thank you for this reminder.

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    Ken Clarke has been the Pastor at Valley since 2007. He lives in the Oliver area 
    with his wife Janice. They have three adult children, Lisa, Scott & Tiffany (Riley, Charlie), Andrea & Jason (Noah, Luke).

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